the N word

you know why trolls bother us? because we are social animals and no one wants to be excluded from the pack. when someone attacks our character, accomplishments or worth, they are deeming us unworthy to be part of the group. it's basic, animal behavior that no amount of rationalization will overcome. it's same thing with the N word. why can some people say it and others can't? because when you're part of the group and say it, it's inclusive. when you're outside of the group and say it, its divisive. Go ahead and call your friends Nerds, you're stating that they're part of the pack.